打服了，治癒了，現在很和諧。
我爸是個家暴男，不過他沒打過我和我妹，他一喝酒就發瘋，打我媽。他是這個家庭的毒瘤，家庭氣氛壓抑恐怖，我為了逃避經常去閨蜜家借宿。有一次他們才吵過，我一回家他又喝瘋了，看樣子又要打人，我煩透了，用木棒敲碎了壁燈，他大怒，衝上來打我，我就和他對打，我媽看他打我，喊著和他拼了，上來幫忙，三個人打作一團，最後是平手。他還有一次醉醺醺在路上碰到我妹，推了她一掌，我妹直接還了他一拳。怎麼說呢，我和我妹都是爆炭脾氣，幸而他沒打我們，不然可能就是三母女揍他一個了。我媽心太軟了，從來不捨得下死手，就被打了那麼多年。後面他老了才不打了。
於是我找物件很謹慎，只要性格偏激極端的，早早避開。本來煞費苦心挑的老公我很滿意，同居相處沒發現問題，他的性格比較溫和，勤快體貼，三觀、生活習慣都沒有矛盾——就是因為透過這些觀察我才放心和他結婚的，沒想到真是咬人的*不叫啊。
婚前我給他說過很多次不能家暴，在我這裡家暴比出軌還要惡劣，是最後底線。我說我爸就家暴，我的婚姻裡不接受這個，如果你家暴，我會暴走發瘋，我自己都不知道我會幹出什麼事來。他信誓旦旦地保證了絕對不會家暴。
結果婚後不久就動手了，剛開始是砸東西、把自己頭往牆上撞、推搡我，我都不知道這些就是家暴的前奏，他是在試探我，就一直由著他。後來發展到打我耳光，我上網查了資料，意識到了嚴重性，那次我沒有還擊，讓他寫保證書了，他又各種賭咒發誓保證絕不動手。然後我讓他看各種家暴的案例、紀錄片反省了一個月。如此管了一年，一次為了瑣事吵架，他又控制不住自己了，我趕緊提醒：你上次保證過不再打我。他惡狠狠說：我**就是要打你！然後狠扇了我三耳光。哇，我瞬間被他的囂張氣焰給點爆了！當時覺得對他實在太失望了，他欺騙背叛了我，因為我要的丈夫不是家暴男，再三給他說過，他也再三保證，結果都是騙我的，出爾反爾！我找物件很小心了，不圖錢不圖長相，到頭來還是栽到家暴男手裡了，感覺老天都和我有仇，那個時候心情和謝遜一樣，真想唾罵老天瞎了*眼，難道這就是我的宿命？我不信我不服！當然這些都是一閃念的感受，當時我是腦子一片空白，整個人陷入狂怒，攻擊欲爆棚，以閃電手速瘋狂還扇他（我平時做事慢吞吞，這輩子手速都沒這麼快過，腎上腺素狂飆），一邊扇一邊惡狠狠問他：你就是要打我？就是要打我？就是要打我？等我清醒過來停手的時候，見他鼻血飆下來了，瞳孔大張，一臉懵逼驚恐。估計扇了他幾十個耳光。
當時我是有同歸於盡打算的（那天晚上他敢再還手，我絕對拖刀砍他），也沒有絲毫手下留情。從此給他治癒了，再不敢動手，畢竟他試過了，我說的發瘋暴走真不是說說而已。我也瞭解他，他這個人其實比較慫，欺軟怕硬，怕死惜命，看我這麼兇殘反而把他震住了。我這人自來就悲觀，悍不畏死，就算打不過他，玩陰的也要弄回來，畢竟他天天還要吃我做的飯。我也和他說了，再打我我把你搞殘，我去坐牢。我還說，我想離婚就離婚，想什麼時候離就什麼時候離，如果你死纏爛打，死亡威脅我和我家人，你小心你自己一家子，我家就四口，你爹媽光孫子就有七個，你和我比狠試試看！（介於網上太多家暴鯊妻案，我先提前警告他，他其實沒說過這種威脅語言）。
我和高贊答主不一樣的地方是，我沒有暴力傾向。在他剛開始推搡我打我的時候，我都沒有還手的慾望，我並不想打人（怒氣值還沒攢夠）。那次打了他之後，我心裡還挺不舒服，有負罪感，有點心疼他，因為作為一個接受了文明教育的人類，我傷害了別人，我覺得這是錯的是有罪的，這是感性上的感受（所以我不明白那些反反覆覆家暴親人的人，心腸都是什麼做的）。但是我確實對家暴行為厭惡到極點，他反覆踐踏我的底線，我的性格向來是吃軟不吃硬，他那句話徹底惹惱了我，打他的時候，我很痛快，有復仇的快感，並且結果也是“治癒”了他，理性上來說，我一點都不後悔。
他還覺得挺委屈，覺得平時對我那麼好，我居然那麼狠毒的打他。我說，一碼歸一碼，你這下明白你打我我是什麼感受了吧，感同身受一下。他說我黑化起來太可怕了，感覺再家暴我會勾出我性格里的所有黑暗面，再這麼下去我倆遲早同歸於盡，真的要改了。從此毛病都改了，文明吵架，動口不動手，他也不撞牆砸東西了，實在生氣就自己出去冷靜一會（現在很少吵架了，一年沒幾回）。
我們這種從家暴家庭出來的，更懂得怎麼對抗家暴者，知己知彼，熟知家暴者的心性和弱點。普通姑娘文文靜靜根本沒有這個狠勁，還是三十六計走為上。我脾氣暴烈，都是在被徹底點爆之後才下狠手的，我覺得女性的攻擊欲真的很弱。
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It‘s gone， it’s healed， it‘s harmonious now。
My dad was a violent man， but he never hit me or my sister， but when he drank， he went crazy and hit my mom。 He was a cancer on this family， and the atmosphere was oppressive and scary， and I used to sleep over at my best friend’s house to escape。 Once they quarreled， when I got home， he was drunk again， and he seemed to want to hit someone again。 I was so tired of it that I broke the wall lamp with a stick。 He was so angry that he rushed to hit me， and I fought him。 He was drunk one time when he bumped into my sister， shoved her， and she punched him in the back。 How to say， my sister and I have a hot temper， fortunately he didn‘t hit us， or maybe three mother and daughter hit him one。 My mother was too soft， never willing to die， and she was beaten for years。 He didn’t play until he got old。
So I find object very cautious， as long as the character extreme， early to avoid。 Originally painstakingly pick the husband I am very satisfied， live together did not find the problem， his personality is relatively mild， diligent and considerate， three views， living habits are not contradictory —— it is because through these observations I am at ease and he married， did not think is really bite the * not call ah。
Before marriage， I told him many times that domestic violence is not allowed。 In my case， domestic violence is worse than cheating。 It is the last line。 I said my dad was violent， and I didn‘t accept it in my marriage， and if you were violent， I’d go crazy， and I didn‘t know what I’d do。 He swore that there would be no domestic violence。
It started with smashing things， banging my head against the wall， pushing me around。 I didn‘t know that was a prelude to domestic violence。 He was testing me。 Later， it developed to slap me in the face。 I checked the information online and realized the seriousness。 That time， I did not fight back and let him write a guarantee。 Then I let him watch a variety of domestic violence cases， documentaries and reflect for a month。 So tube for a year， a quarrel for trifles， he can not control himself， I hastened to remind： you promised not to hit me last time。 He said： I ** is to hit you！ Then he slapped me in the face three times。 Wow， I was blown away by his arrogance！ At that time felt to him really too disappointed， he cheated on me， because I want the husband is not a domestic violence male， repeatedly said to him， he also repeatedly promised， the results are to cheat me， renege！ I find object very careful， not diagram money not diagram appearance， in the end or planted home violent male hand， feel god and I have enemy， that time mood and xie Xun same， really want to spit on god blind * eye， is this my fate？ I don’t believe it！ Of course， all of these were fleeting feelings， when MY mind went blank and I was in a frenzy of rage， attacking him with lightning speed and slapping him （I‘m a slow person， I’ve never done anything faster than this in my life， adrenaline was rushing）， while slapping him with a vicious question： Are you going to hit me？ You want to hit me？ You want to hit me？ By the time I woke up and stopped， his nose was bleeding， his pupils were dilated， his face was stunned。 Must have slapped him dozens of times。
At that time， I had the intention of killing each other （he dared to fight back that night， I will definitely pull the knife to him）， and no mercy。 From then on， he was cured， and he did not dare to start again， after all， he tried， and WHAT I said was really not just talk about going crazy。 I also know him， he this person is actually a coward， bully soft afraid hard， afraid of death cherish life， see me so cruel but he was shocked。 I this person from come to be pessimistic， shrew not afraid to die， even if beat but he， play Yin also want to get back， after all， he still want to eat my cooking every day。 And I told him， hit me again and I‘ll cripple you and I’ll go to jail。 I also say， I want divorce divorce， want what time to leave what time to leave， if you die tie up bad dozen， death threat me and my family， you careful your own family， my home four， your father and mother light grandchildren have seven， you and I than ruthless try！ （I warned him in advance that he didn‘t actually use such threatening language， given the number of shark violence cases on the Internet。）
The difference between me and The great answer is that I’m not violent。 When he first pushed me and hit me， I didn‘t want to hit back。 I didn’t want to hit。 The beat him， my in the mind also very uncomfortable， feel guilty， a little love him， because as a accepted the education of human civilization， I hurt others， I think this is wrong is guilty， this is the feeling emotionally （so I don‘t understand those back home with loved ones， heart is what to do）。 But I do hate domestic violence to the extreme， he repeatedly trampled on my bottom line， my character is always soft not hard， his words thoroughly angered me， when he hit him， I was happy， have the pleasure of revenge， and the result is “cured” him， rationally， I do not regret。
He still feel quite grievance， feel at ordinary times so good to me， I incredibly so vicious dozen him。 I mean， every yard is a yard， so now you know how I feel when you hit me， feel what I feel。 He said it was horrible that I was dark， that if I did it I would bring out all the dark sides of my personality， that if I did it I would end up with both of us， and that it was time to change。 From then on， his faults have changed， civilized quarrel， no words， he did not hit the wall to hit things， really angry on their own out to calm for a while （now rarely quarrel， a few times a year）。
Those of us who have come from violent families know better how to fight them， know ourselves， know our enemies， know their hearts and weaknesses。 Ordinary girl wenwenquietly did not have this cruel， or 36 plan to go up。 I have a violent temper， all are in the thorough point after the explosion under the brutal hand， I think the female attack desire is really weak。
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